Friday, May 1, 2015

10 Year Anniversary Cruise

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Anthony and I celebrated 10 years of marriage in December.  10 awesome, amazing years together, and it only gets sweeter with time.  Anthony planned a fun getaway vacation for jus the two of us and it was absolutely wonderful!

Departure -

We had to go with Plan B for the kids when grandparents could no longer make it down. Don’t worry, there was an excel spreadsheet involved for all the coordinating that took place :) Thanks to some amazing friends and family, we were still able to go. 

Not even the stomach bug could keep us away, but it sure tried!

Let me tell you, everyone needs a friend like the Wises.  They were absolutely wonderful and saved the day – taking care of our kids and our home.  Not only were the kids still alive (we set the expectation real high, lol!), but they were bathed, home completed, house cleaned (even the fridge!) – and a meal cooked and ready for the next day!  They were amazing and we are SO grateful for them!

Setting sail – a view from the cabin.  Wide open seas, no wifi, no cell phones!

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The beaches were breathtaking! We rented a jet ski and cruised around the open seas, seeing smaller islands, private beaches, and the most ginourmous beach homes imaginable.   One day, maybe one day! 

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The beach was packed by the hotel, but we walked another few blocks and had the whole place practically to ourselves! 

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We crashed on the beach! I soaked up some rays while Anthony hid in the shade.   While I was laying out in the sun,  before I know it, there’s a group of people around Anthony.  Even in the Bahamas, he make’s friends  with everyone! 

I learned Anthony can talk to everyone and everyone, even people that don’t really want to talk. Even on our 6am flight out of KC, and he’s alive as can be.  That’s why he’s a dentist -- he’s used to talking to people ALL DAY long!

We  jumped and swam in the brilliant crystal clear blue water.  I would have been totally content to never leave the beach the entire trip.  I mean, is there any better feeling than sand between your toes!?!?

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Looking back, we didn’t get any good pics of us on the beach.  The sun was shining and we were squinting.

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And even better – was Anthony’s hand placement holding up the towel.  Just doesn’t look right! :)

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Taxi ride in Bahamas was hilarious. Clearly, the taxi driver was not happy to be driving a taxi.  He gave me dirty look and insisted that I shut the van door – even if the dang thing wasn’t budging.  But that didn’t stop Anthony from striking up a convo.  “Oh, you’re listening to R&B, I'm surprised you’re not listening to island music!”  And the only nice non-tourist building on the entire island was a hospital -- brand new!  He starts to boast, “This is our new hospital.  Health care in Bahamas is free!” onviosuly with great pride and the only enthusiastic thing I’ve heard him say.  Anthony’s response, “Yeah, I’m sure with all the taxes you make off of tourism, your country can afford a nice hospital.”  Anthony was super genuine, but the guy pulled over at the next corner in the middle of nowhere and told us, “You can get out here.  The shopping district is just a few blocks away!”

But no worries, we did find some shopping -- picking up some souvenirs. We found a store that sold unique, quality items that happened to be on sale -- and bought a little something for everyone. The cashier was awesome -- trying to sell us some added sneakers and other items, and they laughed out of their seats when Anthony told him he ‘wasn’t cool enough to wear those.’  Clearly, in the us, you had to be black to pull of that look.

A new wedding ring – another present!  I may (or may not) lost my old one when I took it off while I was pregnant.  I put it in a really good spot – just not sure where it was – lol!

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All aboard – a view of Nassau from our cabin08-IMG_9316

Aboard the Cruise Ship

When we returned to the ship, it was time to get ready for formal night.  We were super S-M-A-R-T and left the sunscreen on the cruise ship – so were were so burnt!

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We watched the sun go down – breathtaking.  I’ve never felt so small that looking out on an endless ocean blue.

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Up on deck– trying not to get blown away by the wind :)

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Our view out the window at dinner :)

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The next day we slept in or at least tried.  We had a relaxing day on the cruise ship.  We sat by the pool, while Anthony hid underneath clothes and towels.  While I had every intention of reading a book but the people watching was so much better! A dance party on the pool desk with the DJ, Alejandro (Alej-awesome) was teaching people his moves and everyone showed up, from a 4 year princess to a 99+ old lady. It doesn’t matter how old you are, you either have the rhythm or you don’t -- and that’s that.

Here’s some pics of us out and about – exploring the cruise ship, seeing some shows!  We’ve never taken so many selfies in our life – but still – I wish I would have taken more!  The yellow sculpture hanging above us was amazing – glass blown chandelier that must have been Chihuly’s work for sure!

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We also enjoyed relaxing couples massage, every which part felt amazing!  Even better, we had a some onboard credit to use so it was an great deal!  I asked Anthony if he enjoyed it, but he uttered something like, ‘Yeah, it wasn’t bad!’ Come on, an hour massage!!! In the waiting room, they had heated tiled chairs. It was so hard to leave!

Each night they had a different show to go see.  I’d say the singing and dancing weren’t fabulous, but for free, hey, that’s hard to beat. The comedian and ventriloquist, and i admit, i wasn’t expecting much, but they were so good! totally awesome!

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The comedian was a grumpy Italian making fun of stupid people saying things like “are those real dolphins” when they pass by several in the ocean on the ship or people putting their luggage on “outside” on the balcony to be collected the next morning for their departure.

The ventriloquist was more of a comedian than a traditional ventriloquist, but the best act was when he brought out his wife and they both were the voices for each other, and even signing one of my fave songs from Les Miserab. He did a magic act making a banana disappear in bandana, yet said the real magic is when you connect with people and build memories together.  Couldn’t agree more!

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The food was amazing at first, but by the end, was ready to have my own cooking.  There’s only so much mass produced food you can have before it gets old, really old.   Anthony will always try the weirdest items on the menu -- escargo (snails!) and even talked me into getting frog legs.  Not bad – tasted like shrimp – only with bones.  But I still would have preferred shrimp!

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I always tried to save room for the desserts (surprise, surprise)! just don’t feel sorry for me when i don’t fit into my clothes!

Key West

In Key West, we signed up for a shore excursion - kayaking tour.

We headed out first thing in the morning and kayaked on the open ocean, seeing some wildlife along the way: birds, jellyfish, coral, and other creatures I've never even knew existed. One huge snail-like creature left purple ink on you every time you touched it to try to protect itself.

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99% of the people didn’t want to touch or get close to the thing -- but Anthony picked it up no problem.

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Anthony kept trying to give me pointers here and there, but after several attempts, I asked “Would you prefer for me to stop paddling?” Lol! Apparently my paddling in random bursts of energy and was not smooth or steady enough...despite all my experience canoeing as a kid! But hey, I I had no problem putting my paddle down and started taking pics!

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But in most I still managed to cut off Anthony’s head!21-IMG_845716-IMG_8420   22-IMG_8494

The scenery was beautiful -- but the real fun came from watching other couple navigate the kayaks, and trying not to crash into the mangrove trees along the way. one couple was hilarious -- he’s say absolutely ridiculous things like, hooting and hollering at his wife up front to steer and turn the kayak -- when everyone knows it’s the guy in back that determines the directions.

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Then we headed into Downtown -- of course eating some seafood -- best calamari ever! 

Key lime pie everything!

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Tasted tons of hot sauces from Peppers, where the sauces kept getting hotter and hotter.

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We spent most our time walking along Duval street the entire length, shopping at boutique stores along the way. We passed by a lighthouse with the coolest tree,

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and many other random places as we strolled along.

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and several other museums. We got lost several times -- taking us to places we didn’t intend to go -- but saw much of the islands old quant city charm.  This was one of my favorite residential streets!  It’s beautiful—and everyone rides bikes everywhere!

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But alas, it was time to head back to the cruise ship!09-IMG_9370

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As the ship pulled away from Key West, we saw the sun begin to set on the horizon. The wild was strong enough to knock my flip flops right off and practically knock me right over.  But the sights were breathtaking.

We saw one last show, had one last dinner, and heck, for kicks, decided to go watch the some open mic karaoke. Anthony shocked me when he signed up to go -- quickly regretting the decision -- but the DJ didn’t give him anytime to change his mind.27-IMG_8534

“This is my first time and I’m totally sober” are words you never hear at karaoke bar. Signing Bare-Naked Ladies, “One week” Anthony didn’t fail to impress. Such great entertainment folks, I tell you! He’s amazing!!!

Fort Lauderdale

Since we were in denial of our cruise being over, we squeezed in a little more adventure.  In Ft. Lauderdale, we headed to the wetlands and went on a Gator tour.

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In the everglades, only “air boats” are allowed.  They have huge fans at the back that propel you along – causing you to glide along the water.

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Drifting may have been Anthony’s fave part!

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We got within several feet of several gators!  Even when we got close, they didn’t move or swim away.  They'd just sit there and stare at you! 05-IMG_941504-IMG_9405 06-IMG_9419

The tour guide thru some popcorn out and birds came out from everywhere.  Who knew birds like popcorn so much? 07-IMG_9434

He also caught a fish with his bare hands…impressive!

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And we even say a “Gator Boy” give a presentation about alligators, putting her face and hands in it’s jaw.  While they have impressive jaw strength to close down, they have very little strength to open – so she’s easily able to keep it’s mouth closed when she wants.  Not that I would ever stick my head in it’s mouth…09-IMG_9448 10-IMG_9462 11-IMG_9463 

I wish I could have brought Tanner along to see all these gators!  He would have loved it.  Next time, the kids may just have to come along!

And we had a few more hours to kill, so we relaxed on the beach and had fun “people watching.”  And we decided you don’t have to go to Bahamas or Key West to have gorgeous beaches! 

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And that’s our vacation.  We/re hoping to make this a new annual tradition.  Perhaps not as far, but just escaping even for a weekend.  Kid free, worry free, it’s amazing! 

But even more amazing is Anthony.  He’s the best companion  ever, at home and at seas!   Here’s to an amazing trip, an amazing 10 years together! let’s do it again (hopefully not 10 years away)!

Saturday, April 4, 2015

New Beginnings

 

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Last Spring, I was asked to share with our congregation on Easter Sunday a deeply personal experience with the Atonement of Jesus Christ.  Talking about personal, emotional events in my life has never been easy, but I know I had Divine help delivering this message.  

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Easter Sunday Talk – April 2014

At Easter, we celebrate Jesus Christ’s triumphant victory over death. We know that Jesus Christ came to the earth to die for us. And most of us understand how through His Atonement, we can receive forgiveness from our sins. But do we know that He, through His Atonement, wants to ENABLE US, to strengthen and to heal us.

As part of our mortal experience, our paths will be different, but we each will face “opposition in all things.” The purpose of life, undoubtedly, is to experience JOY! Along our journey, there will be moments of inexpressible happiness, yet we are not immune from the periods of trials, darkness, and loneliness along the way.

I’d like to share with you just one of trials. Sharing deeply personal experiences doesn’t come easy for me…and I pray that the spirit will be here with me as I share this message.

Nearly 4 years ago, I was in my own personal Gethsemane. I had just gone to the hospital to deliver a stillborn baby, a baby I had never gotten to see take a breath of air.

Just a month prior, we went in for a routine appointment to find out the gender of our baby, BUT left with heart-stopping news: the baby was sick and would likely never make it full-term, and if on the off-chance it did, there would be no chance of survival.

For the next month, I carried the baby knowing every day could be the last. When people would ask totally normal and innocent questions, like “When are you due” or “What are you having” I remember one instance where I couldn’t say a word. And only tears followed. It was hard!

And then the day finally came. The baby’s heart rate stopped…and had passed away. In a hospital room, in a farthest corner in the maternity ward, away from the normal happy, crying sounds, was the last place I would wish anyone to be. Yet when we are surrounded by darkness, the contrast of LIGHT, even if just a glimmer, is the greatest. In that hospital room…came one of life’s greatest, immensely spiritual experiences. Just like being in the temple…I could feel God’s presence. I felt Him close to me…as I held a teeny tiny baby in my arms, weighing less than a pound. At that moment, I knew this was not the end. That this wouldn’t the last time I would get to hold her in my arms…it was only the beginning.

We are eternal beings and our existence extends to holier spheres. This past conference, Elder Utchdorf said,

“Whenever we face the bitter endings of life, they seem unacceptable to us. Why is this? Because we are made of the stuff of eternity. We are eternal beings, children of the Almighty God, whose name is Endless. Endings are not our destiny.” 1

I left the hospital that day with empty arms. And despite this spiritual experience I had…the months following were the hardest and darkest. Months and months went by and while everyone ELSE around me was getting pregnant, I wasn’t one of them. Even Tanner began to ask for a baby that “he could take home with him.”

What I was doing wasn’t working. And one day I realized by mistake -- I realized that I was relying on science and my monotonous, half-hearted prayers, but mostly science. It wasn’t until I prayed with “all the faculties of my soul” that anything happened.

And while it seemed LIKE FOREVER, I got pregnant! Exactly one year, to the day, of when our sweet little baby girl was lost. And if there was any DOUBT of God’s hand, another confirmation came a few days later, when Tanner woke up and came running into our room, “Mommy, there’s a baby in your tummy. There’s a baby in your tummy! Let me see!”

When I asked him how he knew this, his response was simple. “Jesus told me when I prayed!”

And Tanner was right. Now we have the healthiest, vibrant, “determined” little girl, whose name is Brooke, whose 2nd birthday we celebrated yesterday. And He didn’t wait long to send us another…

In the moment, it seemed like time had stopped, but looking back, it was NOTHING!

Elder Utchdorf continued, “The more we learn about the gospel of Jesus Christ, the more we realize that endings here in mortality are not endings at all. They are merely interruptions—temporary pauses that one day will seem small compared to the eternal joy awaiting the faithful.” 1

This is the message I share with you this Easter. That we are Eternal beings with Eternal, beginnings. While we face challenges and trials, they don’t have to be an end. Because He already paid the price, we can receive forgiveness and become “clean and pure.” Because He burst the 3-day prison, we too can triumphant over our trials and receive the enabling power to endure.

“There is no physical pain, no spiritual wound, no anguish of soul or heartache, no infirmity or weakness you or I ever confront in mortality that the Savior did not experience first. In a moment of weakness we may cry out, “No one knows what it is like. No one understands.” But the Son of God perfectly knows and understands, for He has felt and borne our individual burdens. And because of His infinite and eternal sacrifice (see Alma 34:14), He has perfect empathy and can extend to us His arm of mercy. He can reach out, touch, succor, heal, and strengthen us to be more than we could ever be and help us to do that which we could never do relying only upon our own power.” 2

Together with Christ, we can experience His divine help, after all; “His yoke is easy and His burden is light.” {Matthew 11:30}

In the name of Jesus Christ, Amen.

Note:  Quoted from Elder Utchdorf’s address given in April 2014, Grateful in Any Circumstances.

2 - From Elder Bednar’s devotional The Atonement and the Journey of Mortality given at BYU in 2001 – I was a student at the time and still remember when I heard this for this first time.

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  Tanner – Age 5

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Brooke – Just turned 2!

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And Rylee (6 months) – her expressions say it all!  I should have known I was in for one crazy fun year!

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This girls, cracks me up!  I miss those chubby cheeks and rolls!

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Happy Easter!